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<!--Generated by Squarespace Site Server v5.9.2 (http://www.squarespace.com/) on Fri, 12 Mar 2010 05:43:42 GMT--><rdf:RDF xmlns:rdf="http://www.w3.org/1999/02/22-rdf-syntax-ns#" xmlns:rss="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:admin="http://webns.net/mvcb/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:cc="http://web.resource.org/cc/"><rss:channel rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/"><rss:title>Craving Balance</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/</rss:link><rss:description>Fabulously sensible life balance for smart working women</rss:description><dc:language>en-US</dc:language><dc:date>2010-03-12T05:43:42Z</dc:date><admin:generatorAgent rdf:resource="http://www.squarespace.com/">Squarespace Site Server v5.9.2 (http://www.squarespace.com/)</admin:generatorAgent><rss:items><rdf:Seq><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/11/interview-a-few-things-you-might-not-know-about-lawyermediat.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/10/what-is-the-one-yes-you-can-give-yourself.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/8/negotiation-you-do-it-everyday-but-are-you-good-at-it.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/8/how-were-celebrating-womens-history-month.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/6/are-you-singing-in-the-shower.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/2/brand-new-self-guided-courses-in-the-craving-balance-journal.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/19/interactive-journaling-with-a-little-social-networking.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/14/why-worklife-balance-is-a-purpose-conversation-best-lead-by.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/11/free-coaching-call-its-not-getting-things-done-its-getting-t.html"/><rdf:li rdf:resource="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/8/top-3-worklife-balance-boosters-that-have-nothing-everything.html"/></rdf:Seq></rss:items></rss:channel><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/11/interview-a-few-things-you-might-not-know-about-lawyermediat.html"><rss:title>Interview: A few things you might not know about lawyer/mediator Victoria Pynchon...</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/11/interview-a-few-things-you-might-not-know-about-lawyermediat.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-03-11T16:36:57Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Craving Balance Learning Community How to Negotiate Anything Interviews Victoria Pynchon</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>My wonderful lawyer/mediator friend whom I've never met in person (don't get me started) Victoria Pynchon will be teaching a free teleclass called <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/guest-expert-courses/">How to Negotiate Anything</a> on March 18, followed by an intensive online course during the month of April.</em></p>
<p><em>I had the exquisite pleasure of interviewing Victoria a few years ago about her role as Literary Editor for the online literary magazine, <a href="http://rkvry.com">r.kv.r.y.</a> (recovery). Although a few of the facts and referenced writers' lives may now have changed, the interview stands as a beautiful study in true balance: making purposeful choices that bring something bigger than yourself into being.</em></p>
<p><em>Women: we need to fall in love with each other if we're going to change the world together. In honor of <a href="http://www.nwhp.org/whm/index.php">Women's History Month,</a> I invite you to fall in love with Victoria.&nbsp;&nbsp; ~ Lisa~</em></p>
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<p>"Despite the fact that I'm an attorney, I'm a born scofflaw. I don't really care about any writing rules. I want to be lifted up off my feet and shaken. That doesn't much happen when people are following rules."</p>
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<p><strong>Victoria, what are the many hats you wear, and how did you find your way into the role of Literary Editor for r.kv.r.y?</strong><br /> <br /> I've been an attorney since 1980. Like so many attorneys, I was a literature major with an inclination to earn a decent income. Hence, law school&mdash;the default profession for liberal arts majors. The year I turned 40, in '92, I began to do some major re-thinking about the direction my life had been going. I felt empty and sad, and frankly, my marriages hadn't gone so well. &nbsp;<br /> <br /> So I decided to start writing fiction again. I enrolled in extension classes at UCLA, joined a writers group and began to feel good about my life. Then there was that little social drinking habit I had, which I cut in '94, making 2004 an anniversary of sorts. &nbsp;<br /> <br /> All of life's tumblers clicked into place in '04. I started r.kv.r.y. first as a way of staking out my dream without knowing what that dream might turn out to be.&nbsp;I was casting about for something new. I took a mediation course through a local law school and said "this is it." I went back to school to earn my LL.M in dispute resolution and now I'm mediating full time.<br /> <strong><br /> <strong>Can you describe the focus of the Journal...what you look for?</strong></strong><br /> <br /> The focus of the r.kv.r.y. is pretty much what it says it is: recovery. I didn't want to focus only on alcoholism and drug addiction because my own "recovery" is way broader than that. So the subject matter focus is pretty wide open&mdash;people's recovery from limitations or oppression of any kind. Political, ecological (we did an issue on natural disasters), familial, physical. It's a journal of hope and reconciliation with a focus on overcoming obstacles.<br /> <br /> We're looking for high quality writing. I don't know how to say what that is very quickly. I know it when I read it. Whole libraries have been written on the subject. The journal has links to other literary journals that we'd like to set our standards by and the submission guidelines urge people to read those journals that we link to. I'm always surprised when people who are, for instance, submitting poetry, say they don't read it. Literature and poetry are a conversation and you have to be part of that conversation, I think, to have any hope of becoming a good writer. So I tell people to read like their lives depend upon it, which I must say I believe to be the actual truth of the matter. &nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Who are some of the more well-known writers you've published? And</strong><strong> <strong>do you publish work from writers who are not yet well-established or</strong> <strong>are not yet published?</strong></strong><br /> <br /> We publish a fair number of new writers. To begin with I turned to my friends who are writers. Richard Wirick, who published 100 Siberian Postcards this year in the U.K. and the U.S. He's not well-known because he did what I did&mdash;went to law school and practices law. But unlike me -- mildly talented amateur -- Rick is the real thing. Rita Williams, our literary fiction editor and a member of my writers group, has also been published in r.kv.r.y. Her memoir, If the Creek Don't Rise, was released by a solid publishing house last year. It was reviewed a couple of times by Oprah and received good reviews elsewhere, including the NY Times, LA Times and LA Times Book Reviews.<br /> <br /> Sometimes, when I'm desperate for quality, I'll just go ahead and send a poet an email asking for something. I did that with Dan Masterson who has published a couple of poems now in r.kv.r.y. Rick urges his friends to publish with me, so I have poetry from the brilliant Lissa Warren and Anthony Robinson, editor of the literary journal Transformation.</p>
<p>Kathleen Wakefield is a grammy-winning songwriter who is another member of my writers group. She hasn't been discovered as a novelist yet but should be. Christine Allen is also on the brink of discovery in New York City where she hopes to bring to Broadway the one-woman show that she successfully staged here in Los Angeles. We've published the first working chapter of her memoir. Dorit Cypis is a local artist with an international audience whose work we've published. But, you know, we don't have Thomas Pynchon or Don DeLillo. We're a small press journal but we believe we're very high quality and think someday we'll be a genuine force in the literary world.</p>
<p><strong>How do you market or carve out your niche in the literary journal</strong><strong> <strong>landscape?</strong></strong><br /> <br /> You just start networking. I was innocent. I downloaded Yahoo's free internet-design program, taught myself to use it and am continuing to use it to this day. I think the website costs me about $20/month and the ad in Poets &amp; Writers costs $60 every other month. I just do it.<br /> <br /> That's what I've learned since '04 about everything in life. You just start the thing. You take a single step in the direction of a dream and another the next day, and the one after that. Things begin to grow. People start to hear about you or tell their friends or post something on a blog like you're doing. You become a kind of attractor. I'm not new age so you'll have to understand that what I'm about to say is truly metaphoric and not a concrete belief.</p>
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<p>I think the power of intention coupled with action creates a kind of force that becomes bigger than you are, and everything you've ever done aligns with that intention and becomes part of the engine of the dream.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
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<p><strong>How do the literary "powers that be" (established journals) look upon the proliferation of online literary journals? I guess what I'm asking is whether there is resistance/judgment from either established writers, and/or your peers in the field?</strong><br /> <br /> I don't listen to "powers that be" in any of my endeavors. I don't really care what anyone thinks about the journal other than the people who submit to it and read it. I don't, frankly, know who my "peers" might be. I don't need to be "recognized" by anyone. The work is its own joy.<br /> <strong><br /> <strong>What rules do you like to break?</strong></strong><br /> <br /> All of them . . .<br /> <br /> <strong>What writing rules do you like to see broken?</strong><br /> <br /> Despite the fact that I'm an attorney, I'm a born scofflaw. I don't really care about any writing rules. I want to be lifted up off my feet and shaken. That doesn't much happen when people are following rules. &nbsp;<br /> <strong><br /> <strong>What are some typical mistakes writers make that you see at r.kv.r.y.?</strong></strong><br /> <br /> Oh, the poetry. The poetry. My ex-husband, Joel Deutsch, is a brilliant poet and he is my poetry editor. It's too much for me. We get too much and it's mostly too terrible to bear. People think poetry is easier to write than prose because they think all they have to do is break prose up into lines. Prose is actually easier to write because I think we're all genetically hard-wired to tell stories. Even when they're bad they're bearable.<br /> <br /> If I had to give advice to poets, I would quote Shakespeare: "A poet gives to airy nothings a local habitation and a name." Readers need to be brought into what John Gardner (The Art of Fiction) calls a continuous lucid sensory dream. Poetry cannot be filled with abstractions. It's a hologram of the lived world.<br /> <br /> <strong>Do you work with writers whose submissions are less than perfect if you</strong><strong> <strong>see potential? What's the editorial process like?</strong></strong><br /> <br /> Joel is the most patient and generous editor in the world. If he thinks there's potential in a poem he goes back and forth with people, tweaking the thing and telling them what's good. I don't have the time. I pretty much take what's good enough to publish and reject the rest (kindly I hope). My editing of the fiction and literary nonfiction is therefore pretty minimal.<br /> <br /> <strong>What experience do you hope writers will have working with you?</strong><br /> <br /> Obviously, I hope they'll feel that their work is well-respected; that editorial suggestions are just that&mdash;suggestions for their consideration and not mandates from on high. I hope they'll like the photography or other art that we publish with their work. If they don't we hope they'll feel free to say, "I don't like it, please use something else." I hope they'll be proud to have appeared in r.kv.r.y. with other writers of like quality and that someday something we've published will appear in Best American Short Stories or be short listed for a prestigious literary prize. &nbsp;<br /> <br /> <strong>Where do you see r.kv.r.y. in the future? Where are you going?</strong><br /> <br /> Well, I think r.kv.r.y is leading me more than I'm leading it. After all, it was the first flag I planted in my own little Everest of hopeful achievement. I've always wanted to go to paper and writers like to have, to touch, their published work. But then I get notes from our writers who say they feel they have a closer relationship with their readers from being published in r.kv.r.y. online because, for some reason, people feel easier about dropping them a line and saying how much their work meant to the reader.<br /> <br /> <strong>What is it to be completely fulfilled in this work and in life?</strong><br /> <br /> Wow. These questions are deep. The poet Donald Hall interviewed a sculptor for the New Yorker once. The sculptor was in his 80s and Hall asked him what the secret to a successful and happy life was and he replied, "Choose to do something with your life about which you're passionate but which you cannot ever accomplish." That's what I've done. And for me, that's what being completely fulfilled feels like. To be on the edge, like a blade of grass pushing itself up through the dirt for the first time. The grass has already laid down itsroots, which must be a hell of a lot of work. The moment you live for is the moment you first break through the dirt. Then, you know, my "mow and blow" guy comes and cuts it down. You have this really small moment and then you have to move on to the next one.&nbsp; It's what the Tibetan Bhuddists call the "indestructability of impermanence."<br /> <br /> It's all about the moment of coming into being. So there's no durability to failure and no experience of failure because I say, "Okay, that didn&rsquo;t work; let's see what I can make up tomorrow.</p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/10/what-is-the-one-yes-you-can-give-yourself.html"><rss:title>What is the one yes you can give yourself?</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/10/what-is-the-one-yes-you-can-give-yourself.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-03-10T13:58:17Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Craving Balance Essays &amp; Stories baby steps choice</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It's just a moment in time. <br />A moment in the vast space of you. <br />What is it? <br />What is the one yes you can give yourself right now?<br />You have a madding crowd of ideas, obligations, performances of pleasing, pencils to sharpen to scratch lines through to-dos. <br />But what is the one yes you can give yourself right now?<br />I know you'd like to rattle the cage of education, turn 77 cents on the dollar to 99, and stop your daughter from riding in that car with that boy.<br />And yet, there's one foot, one toe nudge into possibility that's possible right now, and that's all there ever is. One foot in front of the other. And the one that's left behind has no choice but to follow, or be stuck in the past.<br />What's the one yes you can give yourself?<br />What will it take to follow the nudge?</p>
<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img src="http://www.cravingbalance.com/storage/walking%20in%20sand.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1268229258578" alt="" width="211" height="140" /></span></span></p>
<p>&nbsp;~ Lisa ~</p>
<p>&nbsp;<em><em><a href="../../guest-expert-courses/">Register now</a> for guest expert Victoria Pynchon's free telelclass, "How to Negotiate Anything."</em></em></p>
<p><em><em><br /></em></em></p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/8/negotiation-you-do-it-everyday-but-are-you-good-at-it.html"><rss:title>Negotiation: You do it everyday, but are you good at it?</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/8/negotiation-you-do-it-everyday-but-are-you-good-at-it.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-03-09T03:54:07Z</dc:date><dc:subject>How to Negotiate Anything Negotiation Victoria Pynchon Women/s History Month Workshops &amp; Events</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Every day we navigate our lives with a series of minor and major movements. Negotiations. They look like this:</p>
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<li>Where do you want to go for dinner?</li>
<li>How much do you want for that painting?</li>
<li>We'll give you $400,000 for the condo and that's our final offer.</li>
<li>What's it going to take for you to do your homework on time?</li>
<li>I need my website design done by April 1...can you meet that deadline?</li>
<li>Both of these projects are due at the same time. How do you want me to prioritize them?</li>
<li>When can you meet? I'm free at 4 p.m. on Friday. You?</li>
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<p>But women, how good are you at negotiating your value? Your worth? How good are you at asking for what you want and getting it? How comfortable are you letting go of potential income if the offer doesn't meet your bottom line number? Are you aware of your non-negotiables? Your bottom, bottom line? How good are you at sitting upright through your boss's resistance and rationalizations and counter offers?</p>
<p>Curious what the balance between say, your self worth and your salary look like...</p>
<p>(In honor of Women's History Month (and the fact that we're still seriously lagging in pay equity) jump into the comment box and tell the truth.</p>
<p>In joy,</p>
<p>Lisa</p>
<h3><em><a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/guest-expert-courses/">Registering now</a> for guest expert Victoria Pynchon's free telelclass, "How to Negotiate Anything." </em></h3>
<p><em><br /></em></p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/8/how-were-celebrating-womens-history-month.html"><rss:title>How We're Celebrating Women's History Month</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/8/how-were-celebrating-womens-history-month.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-03-08T21:20:34Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Craving Balance Journaling and Learning Community How to Negotiate Anything Victoria Pynchon Women/s History Month Workshops &amp; Events</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span class="thumbnail-image-float-left ssNonEditable"><span><img src="http://www.cravingbalance.com/storage/Victoria_1_1_-227x300.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1268003216496" alt="" width="199" height="261" /></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 227px;">Victoria Pynchon</span></span>I'm celebrating Women's History Month by offering a month-long online journaling and learning course called <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/guest-expert-courses/">How to Negotiate Anything</a> for women&mdash;giving us the tools and practice to ask for what we're worth and get it. Our guest expert instructor is the prolific, brainy, hilarious and talented lawyer/mediator Victoria Pynchon of <a href="http://www.settlenow.com/">Settle it Now Dispute Resolution Services. </a></p>
<p>I can think of nobody else I'd want to celebrate Women's History Month with, and I thank her for inspiring me to post what I'd call a declaration (excerpted from the 1987 Congressional Resolution):</p>
<p><strong>Whereas American women of every race,  class, and ethnic background</strong> have made historic contributions to the growth and strength of our Nation in countless recorded and unrecorded ways;</p>
<p><strong>Whereas American women have played and continue to play a  critical           economic, cultural, and social role </strong>in every sphere of the life of the Nation by constituting a significant portion of the labor force working inside and outside of the home;</p>
<p><strong>Whereas American women have played a unique role throughout the  history           of the Nation</strong> by providing the majority of the  volunteer labor force of           the Nation;</p>
<p><strong> Whereas American women were particularly important in the  establishment           of early charitable</strong>, philanthropic, and cultural  institutions in our           Nation;</p>
<p><strong> Whereas American women of every race, class, and ethnic  background           served as early leaders</strong> in the forefront of every  major progressive           social change movement;</p>
<p><strong> Whereas American women have been leaders, not only in securing their own rights of suffrage and equal opportunity, but also in the abolitionist movement,</strong> the emancipation movement, the industrial labor movement, the civil rights movement, and other movements, especially the peace movement, which create a more fair and just society for all; and</p>
<p><strong>Whereas despite these contributions, the role of American women in history has been consistently overlooked and undervalued</strong>,  in the           literature, teaching and study of American history:</p>
<p><span style="font-weight: bold;">Now, therefore, be it resolved</span> by the <strong>Craving Balance Blog and the Blogs of all other women who are making and recording the history of the United States of America every working day</strong>, that March is designated as "Women's  History Month."        <span style="font-weight: bold;">Every woman blogger and every male blogger whose life has been enriched by the presence of women in it is requested</span> to issue a proclamation each March, calling upon their fellow bloggers to observe <span style="font-weight: bold;">March  as Women&rsquo;s History Month</span> with appropriate programs, ceremonies,  and activities.</p>
<p><em>This resolution, calling upon "the people of the United States to observe <span style="font-weight: bold;">March as Women&rsquo;s History Month</span> with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities" was passed by Congress in 1987 and successive years since then. For more information about the origin of National Women's History Month, or the activities of the National Women's History Project, contact:<strong>&nbsp; <a href="http://nwhp.org/">National Women's History Project</a></strong>.</em></p>
<h3>﻿<strong><em><a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/guest-expert-courses/">How to Negotiate Anything</a> starts April 1. Follow this link to join the <a href="http://journal.cravingbalance.com/seminars.aspx?Seminar_ID=62">How to Negotiate Anything Free Teleclass Intro</a> on March 18! Space limited.</em></strong></h3>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/6/are-you-singing-in-the-shower.html"><rss:title>Are You Singing in the Shower?</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/6/are-you-singing-in-the-shower.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-03-07T05:42:00Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Crystal Bowersox Idol Jamie Pugh Lilly Taylor purpose</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I'm a possibility whore. I should probably change my bio and my business card to reflect my confession. Quite simply, I watch people like <a href="http://www.americanidol.com/videos/season_9/performances/?ref=ai9_hp_video_itunes_perf">Crystal Bowersox</a> and <a href="http://www.americanidol.com/videos/season_9/performances/?ref=ai9_hp_video_itunes_perf">Lilly Taylor</a> on Idol and <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1KHRf02ups">Jamie Pugh</a> on Britain's Got Talent and shudder with joy. It's not just how the songs move me and how "good" they are in the moment of their performances, but how they fortell a future; theirs and ours.</p>
<p>It would be easy to sit in cynicism about pop culture, mass marketed phenoms, commercial tripe, and any other hip and tumble point of view, and we'd be in good company. But we'd be missing the point, and probably missing our life.</p>
<p>Wouldn't it be wonderful to know that nothing could keep you from yourself? That nothing could keep you from expressing yourself? Giving yourself? Finding out what it feels like to snowboard or cook posole, or change a clutch in a VW?</p>
<p>Passion + Possibility = Purpose.<br />Purpose + Action = Balance.</p>
<p>Inspire yourself:</p>
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<p style="text-align: left;"><span><br /></span></p>
<h3><span>Passion Meets Purpose Spa $97</span></h3>
<h4>4-Week Solo Learning and Journaling Course</h4>
<p>A beautifully self-guided course for women who want to shift direction and align <em>who you are</em> with <em>what you do.</em> Whether you're new to personal discovery, or making a significant transition, or reinventing yourself from the inside out, this course will deepen your awareness, strengthen your relationship with yourself, and give you a foundation for planning your life's next adventure.&nbsp;<em>&nbsp;</em></p>
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<li>Learning sessions are released incrementally over the month, and include journal comments and coaching with life balance specialist and coach Lisa Gates, cpcc.</li>
<li>Available at your request / upon payment.</li>
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<h4>4-Week Solo Learning and Journaling Course</h4>
<p><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana;">Whether you're working in a demanding, so-called 9-5 job that leaves you little room to breathe, or working from home with competing demands that tax your ability to get things done, or a working mom needing to squeeze out a time for yourself, the juggle isn't easy.</span><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana;"> </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana;">No matter where you find yourself on the work+life continuum, this </span>self-guided course will put you in control of how you spend your precious time and get the things that matter most to you in action.</p>
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<li>Learning sessions are released incrementally over the month, and include journal comments and coaching with life balance specialist and coach Lisa Gates, cpcc.</li>
<li>Available at your request / upon payment.</li>
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<h3>Purpose Changes Everything $157</h3>
<h4>12-Week Solo Learning and Journaling Course to Chart Your Life Balance Blueprint</h4>
<p><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana;">This course will change your relationship with yourself, others, and the world, and is definitely not for dabblers. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana;">You're going to be shaking things up, challenging ways of being that have become routine and comfortable, and getting in action not only in your practical everyday doings, but perhaps with big projects or lifelong wishes.</span> You'll discover and affirm your values, strengths and purpose, remodel your schedule to get your goals to show up reliably on your everyday schedule, learn how to say no and when to say yes, and develop ongoing accountability and productivity practices.</p>
<ul>
<li>Learning sessions are released incrementally over three months, and include journal comments and coaching with life balance specialist and coach Lisa Gates, cpcc.</li>
<li style="text-align: left;">Available at your request / upon payment.</li>
</ul>
<h4 style="text-align: left;"><em>All courses delivered through the<a href="http://journal.cravingbalance.com"> Craving Balance Journaling and Learning Community. </a><span>Register <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/self-guided-courses/">here.</a></span><a href="http://journal.cravingbalance.com"><br /></a></em></h4>
<p>﻿</p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/19/interactive-journaling-with-a-little-social-networking.html"><rss:title>Interactive Journaling with a Little Social Networking</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/19/interactive-journaling-with-a-little-social-networking.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-02-19T15:43:12Z</dc:date><dc:subject>CCraving Balance Learning Community Life Balance Work+Life Balance</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Journaling Gets You Connected to Yourself, Your Relationships, and Your Place in the World &mdash; and that's Real Balance. So, how do you find your place in the world if you're having trouble showing up for you? I know you want your life to add up to something. I know you want a balanced, purposeful livelihood. Journaling is the single most delicious, effective tool for creating sustainable self-awareness and change.</p>
<p>The Craving Balance Journaling and Learning Community is part journaling, part e-learning, and part social networking. <strong>Here's what you get for free:</strong></p>
<ol>
<li>Receive a full year of weekly journaling prompts you can share with just me, or with the entire community.</li>
<li>Enjoy frequent comments and a bit of coaching from me to help you unravel your balance challenges.</li>
<li style="text-align: left;">Track your progress with our Goal Setting and Tracking feature.</li>
<li style="text-align: left;">Get members-only access and discounts on Special e-Learning Courses and Workshops.</li>
<li>Get your questions answered in our free monthly Community Teleclasses.</li>
<li>Discover why connecting with like-minded women catapults you out of indecision, dithering and flatlining and into action.</li>
</ol>
<h3><a href="http://journal.cravingbalance.com/">Please join us now!<br /></a></h3>
<p>﻿Lisa Gates<br />Life Balance Specialist and Coach</p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/14/why-worklife-balance-is-a-purpose-conversation-best-lead-by.html"><rss:title>Why Work+Life Balance is a Purpose Conversation Best Lead by Women</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/14/why-worklife-balance-is-a-purpose-conversation-best-lead-by.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-02-15T04:21:36Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Craving Balance Learning Community Essays &amp; Stories Purpose Work+Life Balance Work+Life Balance</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>Work+Life Balance a Woman's Issue?</h3>
<p>The message hurled toward women that work+life balance issues are ours to solve used to infuriate me, until I realized that our capacity for holistic change makes us perfect leaders for promoting humanity in the workplace, and purpose in our work style choices.</p>
<h3>Treating the Cause of Work-Life Imbalance</h3>
<p>It also used to annoy me that work+life balance issues were so unconsciously tethered to productivity tools as the first and usually only line of defense for handling what&rsquo;s on our plates (plus all the stuff that <em>should</em> be on our plates <em>if we were just better multitasking employees, wives, mothers, sisters</em>). Women consistently tell me that this very yang perspective is what helped them become aware that they were treating the symptom and not the cause.</p>
<p>Even though we now know better, the tragedy is that as a culture, we&rsquo;ve internalized that better multitasking and productivity leads to balance. Instead of investing in a rigorous inquiry into purpose and right livelihood, we ply technological tools and bandages to give us oxygen in our breathless days. We think we know ourselves, but sooner or later we wake up in our careers and relationships and realize we&rsquo;ve made some unconscious choices and assumptions, and we&rsquo;re pissed off! The scene in <em>Up In the Air </em>in which George Clooney explains to J.K. Simmons as he's firing him that his youthful dream of being a chef is now possible exquisitely captures this modern tragedy.</p>
<p>It&rsquo;s tricky to unwrap the personal from the political or the collective think on the issue of balance, but one thing is certain. The MadMen Effect has done and continues to do a great job of selling us on our failings and our &ldquo;true place in the world.&rdquo; Yet the fortunate fallout of the recession is that so many women are using their forced unemployment as an opportunity to reinvent themselves. These formerly breathless-with-busyness humans are now finding out that wacked out work-life balance is a crisis of purpose, not productivity.</p>
<p>So as we become more aware of the influences we&rsquo;ve internalized, the more important this personal work becomes. To create joyful livelihoods and quality relationships we have to know precisely who we are, what our strengths are, and what we want and don&rsquo;t want. We have to give up the ghost of wishing our circumstances were different, and get on with taking responsibility for creating new circumstances. Yes, easier said than done, but who said it had to be easy &mdash; MadMen?</p>
<h3>Purpose Changes Everything</h3>
<p>Finding our passion and purpose is not gratuitous navel gazing. It&rsquo;s basic training. And just as we start great swelling movements of social change at the grassroots level, our personal changes will create ripples in the social and political landscape of work+life balance, flexible workplaces, humane, family-promoting legislation, etc.</p>
<p>So, we start where we are. Where we live. And this conversation is best lead by women because we <em>get it. </em></p>
<p>And just to put this into the down and dirty daily perspective, my husband washes dishes every other month, and when he does he never actually cleans them. I mutter and complain and re-load the dishwasher. He leaves a trail of stuff from one end of the house to the other, and Helga the Maid tries to breathe deeply as she stoops to conquer. He works 14 hours a day, and all the housework, banking, office work, and school and childcare needs fall in my domain. The difference between 1965 and now is that the choice is conscious. I don&rsquo;t work on my husband. I work on me. We have conversations of alignment, rather than blame. Requests and agreements replace demands and victimization. Usually. Fundamental to this process is the recognition that we both have certain strengths and preferred ways of being, and we either fight it, or acknowledge it and work with what is.</p>
<p>This dance requires agility, doesn&rsquo;t it? I reckon we&rsquo;ll do what we&rsquo;ve always done: change the world one letter, one word, one conversation, one friendship, one baby, one business, one movement, one cause at a time.</p>
<p>in joy,</p>
<p>Lisa</p>
<p><a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/telecoaching-clinics/"><em>Register today for Purpose Changes Everything: A Life Balance Blueprint. Last day for advance discount on the 12-week online course and telecoaching series.</em></a></p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/11/free-coaching-call-its-not-getting-things-done-its-getting-t.html"><rss:title>FREE Coaching Call: It's Not "Getting Things Done" ... It's Getting that One Thing Done</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/11/free-coaching-call-its-not-getting-things-done-its-getting-t.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-02-12T04:01:48Z</dc:date><dc:subject></dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Did you make New Year's resolutions? A few of them?&nbsp; Did you call them "Intentions" thinking you'd fool the Gremlins of Procrastination? Did you avoid them altogether to avoid the Harpies of Failure?</p>
<p>Mmm. Yes, yes, yes. To quote Dr. Phil, "How's that going for you?</p>
<p>I invite you to slip off your shoes and your headset, turn off your Blackberry and join me for our <strong>FREE Winter Wake Up Call: Invigorating your Goals and Resolutions. </strong>We're going to find out how to focus on getting that ONE THING DONE.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Friday, February 12<br />12 noon PST | 1 MTN | 2 CEN | 3 EST</p>
<p><a href="http://journal.cravingbalance.com/seminars.aspx?Seminar_ID=53">Follow this link to the Craving Balance Learning Community to register and get the call-in details!</a></p>
<p>In joy,</p>
<p>Lisa</p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item><rss:item rdf:about="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/8/top-3-worklife-balance-boosters-that-have-nothing-everything.html"><rss:title>Top 3 Work+Life Balance Boosters that Have Nothing (everything) to Do with Productivity</rss:title><rss:link>http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/2/8/top-3-worklife-balance-boosters-that-have-nothing-everything.html</rss:link><dc:creator>Lisa Gates</dc:creator><dc:date>2010-02-08T15:04:40Z</dc:date><dc:subject>Integrity Work+Life Balance Work+Life Balance productivity</dc:subject><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">You could <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/telecoaching-clinics/">set goals for the year,</a> get a new calendar, drink the Kool-Aid of <a href="http://www.davidco.com/">GTD</a>, order a perfect new <a href="http://www.moleskinerie.com/">Moleskine, </a>organize your desk, <a href="http://www.assistu.com/">hire a VA,</a> quit your job and get a new one, or any of a gazillion other great solutions that would create more work+life balance and productivity.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">But after a time, that old curmudgeony feeling is likely to creep back in. You know...that sense of not being quite right with the world. Burdened. Stressed. Your Moleskine will sit in the back seat where you tossed it, your VA won't be able to reach you, and the same projects and tasks show up on your brand new calendar every week. Why? Because you can't solve the puzzle of balance by layering gadgets, tools and toys over what's really broken. Your integrity.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">So these three anti-productivity productivity practices will bring your life into sharp, direct, clear focus and give you immediate spaciousness, completion and integrity.</p>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Tell the truth:</h3>
<blockquote style="text-align: left;">
<p><span style="text-decoration: line-through;">I really wanted to attend your party but I was working late and the kids had a meltdown when I came home and by the time things were calmed down it was too late. Besides, someone boxed me in and I couldn't get out of my parking space even if I wanted to. </span>I'm sorry if you were counting on me. How can I make it up to you?</p>
</blockquote>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Say no:</h3>
<blockquote style="text-align: left;">
<p><span style="text-decoration: line-through;">I really don't have the time to add one more thing to my plate, but I guess I have to do this. I mean it won't look good if I don't.</span> I'm really working at creating balance in my life right now. No thank you.</p>
</blockquote>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Stop Talking:</h3>
<blockquote style="text-align: left;">
<p>I'm really working at creating balance in my life right now. No thank you. <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">I mean, I'd really love to take on this project, and I know you're going to be disappointed in me, but I just feel really overwhelmed, and if I bring home one more project I think my husband will divorce me. You're not mad are you? Oh heck, just give it to me, I can do it. I don't know why I said no.</span></p>
</blockquote>
<p style="text-align: left;">Imagine what it would be like to do these three things every day, all day long. Imagine the impact to your experience of integrity and balance.</p>
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<p>﻿In joy,</p>
<p>Lisa</p>
<h3><strong>Two Things to Do Today:</strong></h3>
<p><strong><em><a href=" Link to the Seminar:   http://journal.cravingbalance.com/seminars.aspx?Seminar_ID=53 ">Register</a> for the FREE Winter Wake Up Call: How to (re)Invigorate Your Goals and Resolutions.</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em><a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/learning-community/">Join</a> the Craving Balance Learning Community.</em></strong></p>]]></content:encoded></rss:item></rdf:RDF>